This is very hard to do, and I’m trying to do it without falling apart, but I can’t guarantee that I won’t…
If you’ve been with MBB since the beginning, you know that one of the cornerstones of the blog is Tabs, our — and I mean our as in all of us — our sweet, sassy kitty model extraordinaire.
There’s no easy way to tell you this, but my constant companion for the last 12 years will soon be leaving this earth.
We got news from the vet last week that Tabs has terminal cancer, and that if we’re lucky, he’ll be with us for anywhere from three to six weeks.
Not even that is a guarantee, though. He could be here for a day, two days… I just don’t know. And it’s been difficult to process all of this. On one hand, part of me wants to say, “You sweet, sweet cat. You came home to say goodbye to us and to let us have more time with you, and even as you’re on the kitty runway to heaven, you’re allowing me, El Hub, Connor and all of your fans to spend a little extra time with you, and to try to fathom how it’s going to be when you’re gone, just to allow us to love you a little bit longer.”
I can’t believe that this cat who has taught me so many things about love, and the unconditional giving of love, is still teaching me things… How to grieve and how to mourn.
The following pics were taken today on our morning walk.
I read somewhere once that grief is a lot like standing on the shore of the ocean when the tide is high and the waves pummel you over and over again. You don’t know if you’re going to drown, and then when the tide goes out, occasionally, it’ll touch you and your toes. Then, when it’s really far out but your feet are still wet, and you barely perceive it?
That’s what I’ve been feeling for the past few days. It alternates between the sense of dread of knowing that the house will be empty without him, but knowing how it’ll feel, if that makes any sense…
I’m wondering how our family will be — our family of four — how it will be as a family of three, and wondering how can I try to be happy or joyful when I feel this weight on my heart. And I feel foolish for not always paying as much attention to him as I should have, especially over the last few years… I feel foolish when he seems to have a good day, and I see sparks of his old tabby self — a little bit of cattitude, a lot of love, and the part of me that wants to hope, it says, “Oh, maybe a miracle will happen. Maybe he’ll get better.” But I know that’s not possible.
I know that after he leaves us, that life will go on, but I don’t know how it’s going to feel.
I wonder if I’ll ever be as happy as I have been with him in my life. I know that sounds so dramatic, but he’s been my constant companion every day for more than 12 years.
My best friend. 💖
Your friendly neighborhood beauty addict,
Karen
Oh Karen. I am so very sorry. It’s never easy to lose a pet, especially one that’s been with you for so long. Take solace in knowing that as much as he has enriched your lives all these years, you all have done the same for him.
Karen,
so sorry to hear about Tabs being sick…
It’s hard to find words, but I want to say – your cat is wonderful!
And though he lives so far away from me, it feels like I know Tabs (and you!) very well.
Oh Karen, that’s heartbreaking news. Tabs has been a great MBB mascot, and he deserves a few more days of love with your family. I’ll be sending well wishes his way for an easy next few weeks.
Karen, you have my sympathy at this very sad time. You are a wonderful friend/assistant to Tabs. He chose you, and that’s so special. Saying goodbye is hard, but you’ll be there to comfort him , I’m sure, just like the special friend that you are. 😢
My heart is breaking for you, and I totally identify with everything you have said after losing four beloved dogs, including one who was with me for 13 and another for nearly 15. They are our family and who have been with us through so many important parts of lives—it is so very hard to get ready to say goodbye and the grief and void left in our lives. You and your family have my heartfelt love, hugs, and prayers. Tabs has left his precious little footprints on all of our hearts.
So sorry.
Karen, I’m so so sorry to hear your news. Tabs always brought a smile to my face. My beloved dog Oscar died from terminal cancer too and it was heartbreaking. I still dream about his sister and him sometimes though and feel like they’re telling me they will always be a part of me. Sending virtual hugs and good thoughts your way.
I’m so sorry to hear about Tabs, Karen. I loved getting to know Tabs through your posts. I went through something similar when my childhood cat Mario was diagnosed with terminal cancer last year. It’s not easy when they are such a huge part of our family and daily lives. I hope Tabs finds peace and comfort and gets spoiled with lots of love and favorite treats and toys. We did that for Mario and near the end, he seemed at peace and happy to be surrounded with his favorite people. I’ll keep you guys in my thoughts through this tough time.
I’m so sorry. Pets are family and it’s so hard to lose them. Thank you for sharing Tabs with us. He’s such a handsome gentleman. He will be missed very much. Thank you for giving him a loving home and a great life.
I’m sorry to hear about Tabs. I’ve always loved him following you on MBB. He’s a big part of your blog/ family & will be missed. We lost a beloved cat a little over three years ago. He’s such a sweet cat.
Oh, Karen. I am so sorry to hear this sad news. We all know how much Tabs means to you. I pray you are able to enjoy all the time you have left with your sweet cat.
Oh Karen, I am so very sorry to hear this news. It is clear that being Tabs assistant has been very joyful for you. It is so hard to say good-bye to our family members. I hope you are able to really enjoy these last days with Tabs. I’ve enjoyed reading about his kitty modeling career.
Hugs to you and your family.
Karen, I’m so so sorry. Your grief is palpable. I have no words except to say that I’ll be thinking of Tabs, you and your family and hoping for more precious time together in the next couple of weeks. Lots of hugs, Kate
I’m very sorry to hear this. My condolences to you and your family.
I’m so very sorry Karen. You were a gift to each other, and he’ll continue to be a gift forever.
Dear Karen..am so sorry to hear about Tabs! Just knowing him through MBB and your photos, I love him so much. Sending you hugs…
Oh Karen, I am so heartbroken to hear about Tabs. Don’t ever feel foolish that you didn’t pay enough attention to him. Everyone that has followed you through the years has seen and felt the incredible love that you have felt for Tabs, how much attention you have given him, and how much he has meant to you and your family. That is the terrible price that we pay for loving our animals so much – that we know they will never be with us for long enough, and some day we will have to say goodbye. It won’t be easy, but part of him will always be with you, and you will have the love and support of all of us that follow you. Thank you so much for sharing Tabs with all of us for so many years. He has been a gift to us all, and we will all miss him so much. Treasure the time you have left, and know that you and your family and Tabs are in our prayers. God Bless You and give you peace.
Much love
Sending you virtual hugs and support. Tabs is and will always be part of MBB readers hearts.
Karen, I’m so heartbroken for you & your lovely family. I have read your blog for many years & followed Tab’s kitty modeling career. He’s a beautiful friend & I believe just maybe, he was heaven sent especially for you. ❤️
Hi Karen, I’m so sad… You should enjoy what time he has in our stead. Take comfort in all the good moments he provided you and in the knowledge that you have given him an amazing life full of fun, care and love. There will never be another tabs. And that’s how it’s supposed to be, no cat should be forced to fill such big shoes (paws?). Be strong. We are here with you. Best, Luiza.
I am so sorry. I know how You del.
Oh Karen, that is such sad news. Loosing a feline friend and, for Connor Claire, a big brother is heartbreaking. I am very, very sorry for the news you received and will keep all of you in my thoughts. Cherish the time you have left together!
He will be dearly missed.
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My heart is breaking for you. So sorry to hear about Tabs. You gave him a wonderful life, thank you for sharing him with us.
Oh Karen, I’m so sorry to hear this. I still mourn the loss of our old girl (dog) Shadow.
May I recommend the children’s book, “Cat Heaven” to give comfort to you all.
Oh, Karen, I am so sorry! You’ve been an amazing assistant to him. Prayers go out to you and yours! Losing a pet is losing a member of your family. He will be greatly missed.
I’m so, so sorry to hear this Karen – sending hugs and strength your way during this difficult time
I’m so sad. I read you every day and wait to ” sunday with Tabs” each week with so pleasures. I’m with you. Both are in my thoughts.Gros bisous à vous deux. BIG KISS to both of you.
I am heartbroken for you. I can’t stop the tears as I write this to you. We all love you and Tabs so much.
I’m so sorry, Karen. Tabs is lucky to have found you and I’m glad for the time you had together. Sending you a big virtual hug.
Sending you and your family lots of love. I know how heartbreaking it can be to lose a member of the family. I’ve loved getting to know Tabs over the years and seeing all his meowdeling adventures. He truly is a special boy. Of course, I have a soft spot in my heart for husky tabbies. They unexpectedly walk into your life and change things for the better. Mingus and Ella will be there to greet him across the Rainbow Bridge. *hugs*
Karen, I am sorry to hear about the news about Tabs. Enjoy the time you have together. My thoughts are with you and your family as you deal with this tragedy.
I’m so sorry to read this! He is as lucky to have you and your family as you are to have had him. Make him comfortable and savor every moment you have with him. Sending you hugs. <3
Sending much love and support to you and the whole family.
I very rarely post comments but hearing about Tabs has moved me to say something. There are no words to take away the pain and grief. It was 3yrs ago last week we lost one of our dogs to cancer. I know the pain well and i am here to say in time the pain will lessen. You will never stop missing Tabs and I never will stop missing my dog but in time the pain of loss will be replaced with all the wonderful memories. You won’t feel that crushing grief when you think of Tabs but you will smile and feel he is and always will be part of your life and family.
Oh Karen – My heart is breaking – I never thought i could let my Buster go – he was my baby and best friend – that was 14 years ago and now i have a new baby who will be 14 this year – it was such a hard decision to make and my vet told me he was staying alive for me and then i read this poem and decided it was time – I love you Tabs – take care of Buster for me.
http://www.petloss.com/poems/maingrp/lastbatt.htm
Brave and beautiful, just like his mama. <3 I hope that every moment you have left together is filled with joy and love. You were blessed to have found one another. I'm so sorry for all of you during this sad time. 🙁
I am so sorry to hear about Tabs. He has always been part of the MBB. Sending you hugs. It is good that you have all these memories of him that you will cherish forever.
Oh sweetheart, I am so sorry to hear this is happening. I can’t imagine how much pain you are feeling right now, as your constant companion of so many years will be gone soon. Sending lots of love and prayers your way through this difficult time.
I’m so sorry for you and your family. The hardest thing about loving our pets is how short the time is we have with them. You and Tabs are both lucky to have had each other. May you enjoy this time that you have.
So sorry to read this devastating news. He is and will always be remembered for being a wonderful beloved companion who has made us smile throughout the years. Thank you Tabs for the joy you have given us and we wish you well as you prepare to go over the rainbow bridge. Our thoughts are with your family at this time.
I am terribly sorry for you and your family. I am a long time reader of your blog and fellow cat Mom. My pet son has gotten me through some tough times the last two years, CATS are the best.
Enjoy your time with Tabs, he is such a beautiful cat.
I’m so sorry Karen!! I’ve been reading your blog for years, this breaks my heart. He is lucky to have such a great family. Thinking of you!!
Hugs, Karen! You and Tabs have been in my thoughts since I read your post yesterday. I pray for your family’s strength at this difficult time and may Tabs’ remaining time with you be pain free, peaceful and happy.
I am so very sorry, Karen. I’ve loved following your adventures with Tabs for years now. You’re the best cat momma I know, you two have a very special bond. I definitely teared up reading this. Love and positive energy to you, Tabs, and your family.
I’m so very sorry that this time has come for Tabs. I never was cat person until I started following your blog, and Tabs showed me the error of my ways. Tremendous love and hugs to all of you. Please assure Tabs that he has a legion of global fans holding him close in our hearts.
I’m so sorry. We lost our 18 year old cat in January. I am so thankful for the time we had with him. I know you will have some wonderful memories of your kitty. Thinking of you and your family during this tough time.
Karen,
Keeping Tabs and you and his family in my thoughts. Losing a fur baby is heart wrenching, but just remember you’ve given him such a great home and given him so much love.
I don’t know what you believe, but whether it’s heaven or reincarnation or something else, I think Tabs will have it made, and that you’ll find each other again. <3
Karen, I’m so, so sorry. I’ve had enough pets to know this is one of the hardest things to go through in the whole world. I’m shedding tears, and I’ve never met Tabs IRL. I feel like I know him because of the loving way you write about him, and that says a lot. He has had a good home and a happy life because of you and your family. Sending love, prayers, and lots of hugs to you all.
Oh no! I’m so sorry to read this. They are with us for way too short a period of time. I know you’ll hug him and love him and make his last days with you easier to bear. It’s never easy to let go of our fur children. Hugs and purrs from my fur due to yours. Marbles & Josie sending kitteh kisses
Karen, Life won’t be the same. It will be rough and it will seem the grey cloud that hovers over you will never lift. I promise you, eventually it will. Ever so slightly day by day there will come one day that you’ll smile. You won’t even realize it. I put away all my photos of my 3 that passed away within 18mths. I couldn’t bear to see them. It was years before I could talk about them or look at them without physically feeling ill.
I can now laugh and remember the funny things they all did and crazy ways they acted or how sweet they were. The one time the 3 of them in cahoots strew the calculator paper for my payroll when I was working and accidentally left it out overnight. 🤦🏻♀️
I had more of a gut reaction when my cat I raised from less than one pound passed away unexpectedly at only 10 yrs young, than I did to relatives passing away. I had a nervous breakdown. Really. 🙄 I know. Sounds stupid. You have to let yourself grieve. No matter how you do it, just do it. Make sure you have friends and family who support you and can listen without scoffing ‘he is just a cat’ THOSE people you can’t talk to, they will hurt your heart.
I pray for you and Tabs and the family. It’s tough. I’ve had two with cancer (not the 3 above) I had to let one go at 13 & one at 15 years old. Both sisters had cats that lived to be 19 & 20 but kidney disease took them. Everyones grief is personal, and we don’t all grieve the same way. Find a way that makes you feel good. That makes your heart lighter. I promise. I PROMISE, it will get better with time. I love you and your Tabs. =^••^=
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Oh, no! Karen, I’m so very sorry to hear this news. I’m crying myself just reading what you wrote. I know how an animal’s love enriches our lives and how heartbreaking it is that their lives are so short. I know it’s ridiculous to tell you not to feel guilty, but remember that you gave him a wonderful life and were an attentive and loving assistant. Animals are wonderful gifts of love and will always hold a special place in our hearts. Sending love and support to you and Tabs and your family.
I lost my cat a few months shy of his 13th, also to cancer. There’s no right way to grieve a pet except your own way.
What helped me was keeping his social media up and encouraging my friends to talk about him.
It sucks and the next few weeks and months are gonna suck and it’s sucky. I’m so sorry.
Oh Karen, I’m so sorry to hear about dear Tabs. I have been following Tabs’ (and your) adventures for the longest time. Big hugs to him and you. I have a rescue pup of my own and I can only imagine the pain you’re experiencing. Love to your beautiful kitty.
Thank you everyone for your love and support. Tabs and I love you very much.
We lost our beloved Fanny, our gateway pug, six months ago to cancer. She was my third daughter. I will miss her all the years of my life. However, the day she let us know it was time to let her go, a friend I grew up with sent me a message that a pug had been dumped at her house the night before. Fanny knew we would be a family without a pug and so she waited for a pug without a family. A month later another friend I grew up with gave us a pug because she was leaving the state. Two months later, my husband and daughter were walking thatbsecond pug when they were stopped by people on our street saying they had pug puppies for sale. Fanny passed on October 25th, these puppies were born December 27th, pugs are pregnant for 8 weeks. So we bought our puppy. In six months I have felt every feeling. Being so distraught at losing Fanny that the thought of going with her crossed my mind (briefly and only because it hurt so badly), to the happiness of having two pugs, to the frustration of having a puppy, and to knowing that while things are different, and I will always always miss Fanny, life goes on and she would be so happy that we are sharing our love with more pugs.
We also have her ashes, and that has helped having her home with us.
I’m so sorry about Tabs, love him, kiss him, cry on him, for as long as you have him. He has been so much fun to get to know through you!
I’m so, so sorry, Karen. We’ll miss Tabs so much. He’s been the best makeup blog mascot ever.
I’m so sorry to hear about Tabs. I still miss my four-legged family members. Two of them were our first children. Sometimes I see them out of the corner of my eye. Sending you my love!
Karen, I offer you and your family all the hugs, love, and peace I can. I am sad with you, and thank you for sharing Tabs with us over the years. If he will accept it give him a kiss, pat, or little hug from me. Let the waves come and go, take time, breathe, and you will find a new balance. I try to remember that it only hurts because the love they gave me was so sweet and good, and I was lucky to have that love and them.
All my love to you Karen! I’m at work and reading your post and tears are streaming down my face! I’m so sorry that you’re going through this.
Karen, my heart breaks for you. Our Persian cat Smokey passed away from cancer back in October of 2014. He was 15 years old, and we had him for 14 years. It was one of the most horrible things I’ve have ever had to go through. We have one child, our daughter, and she was 7 when we got the cat, and she was 21, when he passed. She grew up with Smokey as her little brother. I’m so sorry to hear that sweet Tabs has cancer. My cat had cancer on his tongue. I found out really late about it though. He was getting bumps/acne around his mouth, so I took him to the vet. He was salivating, because of the tumor on his tongue. Poor kitty. Anyway, we found out he had a tumor, and within 2 weeks, he was put down. Very sad. Just thinking about what you’re going through, is filling me with tears. I will be praying for you, Tabs, and your entire family. I am especially emotional now, because the cat we got back in 2015, from a rescue, was taken from us by the woman who runs the rescue. We haven’t seen our cat since April 1st. Long story short, the woman took our cat for dental surgery, and won’t give us the cat back. The worst part is that she was charging us $990 for the surgery. When I called to confirm the bill amount, the University of Penn Vet Hospital, in Philadelphia, said that they had not operated on our kitty. We found out that it was done at a community college’s vet department in NJ. The college told me, that the woman who brought the cat in (rescue lady), was not charged for the surgery. The college doesn’t charge rescues for surgery. It’s a thing they do as a courtesy. The rescue woman told my daughter, that unless we agreed to pay all future medical expenses for the cat, and pay for the surgery bill, that we couldn’t have the cat back. We’ve had this cat for 3 1/2 years. I have been depressed and anxious the past few weeks, because of this. Sometimes, I just start crying. I feel so lonely that the cat isn’t here. But, I’m still fighting to get her back. It has now become a police matter, so I should be hearing something soon, on how to precede. They told me that it is considered theft, fraud, and extortion. The woman’s cat rescue should really be shut down. She’s probably stealing other people’s kitties as well. We just hope our kitty Shoshi can come back to us, and that she is alright. Sorry to lay all this on you. I will be praying for your kitty and ours without ceasing. Again, I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. This is one of the hardest things to deal with in life. Hugs and prayers for you Karen.
Sherry
I’m so sorry. Pets are members of the family and as such they are so hard to say goodbye to. I’ve lost pets and the solace I took was that I made their lives as comfortable and happy as I could make it. Tabs will be missed.
Karen,
I’m so saddened to hear this. Life can be so cruel with how it deals out events like this for us to endure. It will be hard dealing with the grief and pain in the beginning, but know that time and understanding friends and family will help heal this pain. There will come a point when you can reminesce without feeling that lump in your throat, I promise. But allow yourself the time to grieve. You and Tabs have experienced many life-changing events together over the years, and the impact of this must be felt and acknowledged before acceptance and healing begins.
I also lost my beloved 15-year old kitty 8 months ago, and I still think of her almost every day. I swear, crazy as it sounds, sometimes I feel her walking across my pillow at night like she used to every night. Perhaps Tabs will also maintain his guardianship over your family, ensuring everyone is kept safe, sound, and comforted.
Fighting back tears… So sorry and saddened to hear this. I know what you’re feeling and it hurts. I hope Tabs can carry out his days with little pain. I recently started following the Instagram account of James Middleton (brother of the Dutchess). He had a lovely tribute to one of his dogs that said something like, “yes, pets die. But they live up until the moment they pass.” Wishing you some comfort xxxooo
Oh no . . I am weeping. Tabs was the replacement when I lost my last cat who was with me for 21.5 years . . the longest relationship ever experienced. She’s in my prayers every day and you will be, too. My sadness is palpable, as I’m sure is yours, but at least you are young enough to have another fur friend. God bless you all . . .
Leigh
Boulder, CO
Sweetie, I am so sorry. This breaks my heart. Tabs is wonderful, and my whole family will miss him, including my two kitties to whom he has been an inspiration.
I’m so sorry to hear about Tabs Karen. I always love seeing him enjoying himself on his morning walks. I hope he can enjoy the grass, the birds and everything he loves for as long as he can. I’m not usually someone who cries much, but the tears are coming today. The garden is the my best place to connect with the divine and I’ll be going there to pray for Tabs. You are a wonderful cat mom and you’ll always have a special bond with Tabs through all eternity. Sending much love and blessings to you, Tabs, Conner Claire and El Hub. Please give Tabs a hug from me and thank him for enriching all of our lives.
Oh, Karen… I haven’t commented in forever. Life has been crazy the last few years. But I have faithfully kept up with your blog posts and the goings on in your world. This breaks my heart to read. My roommate and I lost our dog in the Santa Rosa fire and we are still hurting so much. Thankfully we were able to keep Missy with us as we escaped the flames. Know that my heart is with you and your family, and take comfort in knowing that that you gave Tabs a wonderful, loving home that so many are deprived of. Love to you all.
Sitting here over five thousand miles away, crying over a cat I never knew and a family I have never met. And yet of course, I know you all, in a way. And I had a tabby cat once.
Love to you all.
I’m so sorry Karen. Hugs to you, El Hub and Connor Claire.
I’ve been with MBB, you and Tabs since the beginning, although I don’t comment much. I never, ever fail to click on Sundays with Tabs. As the mother to 2 elderly rescue cats, I truly, sincerely feel your pain. One of my babies was scheduled to be put down a few months ago at 3 in the afternoon, when the vet called me that morning and said, “It’s a complete miracle, but he’s going to pull through.” These second chances to show our love and receive theirs are the most bittersweet thing, because you know the clock is ticking. These pictures are glorious; he is clearly pain-free, enjoying his walk and being back in his (your) world. Big hugs to you all, but especially to you and Tabs. God bless you.
Karen, I am so sorry and will be sending you thoughts and strength over the coming days and weeks. My heart is with you and your family.
Karen, I’m so sorry to read this. I always enjoyed reading about Tab’s adventures. You gave him a great home and a great life. He was lucky to find you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.
Karen,
I’ve been a long-time reader. I check your blog almost every day and I’m guilty of not leaving a comment. I was however featured on your St. Patrick’s Day post several years back 🙂
I have seen tabs every week for years and I look forward to the Sunday posts that are usually focused on him and full of puns or pics. I myself adopted a cat five years ago and she is my everything. My close friend who recently lost her pet and I have seen her go through the motions, so I can only imagine what you might be feeling. I am grateful you have coywolf and your hubby in your life. You have forever changed his life and gave him a happy healthy home. You will be reunited with him one day and please enjoy every minute with tabs. Take the time you need. I appreciate you letting us know. I am actually a therapist in real life and I am happy to connect with you at any time if I can help provide support. I am about to undergo a back surgery myself soon and I know friends are always welcome to help boost morale. ❤️❤️Lots of love, support. and well wishes for tabs and fam
-Mishel
Karen love to you , Connor Claire and El Hubs !
Always know you are the best Cat 🐱 mom ever !
You and Tabs are in my thoughts and prayers. I read your blog daily, and even though I am a dog momma, I always look forward to Sunday with Tabs. You have given him love and a life that he would not have without you. And while he may be leaving too soon, he gave you all the love he had in return. He will always be the perfect model, the perfect fuzzy baby, and the perfect Tabs. Kiss his fuzzy head from me.
I am not a cat assistant and it has been awhile since I have assisted a dog, but my heart bottomed out when I read this post. I was already teary-eyed when you wrote the post awhile back about Tabs getting older and you were already in a way preparing your heart for the time when the rainbow bridge (for Tabs it would be a rainbow-festooned catwalk/runway) would appear for Tabs to do his final earth-strut to the fabulous fashion empire in the sky. Cherish every moment with Tabs, El Hub, Coywolf, and yourself, take a big break if you need to. Your MBB fam will be here thinking you, sending love and giant, mascara-run hugs.
I’m so sorry to hear about Tabs, Karen, and I know how difficult this time must be for you and your family. I first found your blog when I couldn’t have a cat because I was living in university housing. Tabs became my virtual cat, and I loved reading about your relationship with him. Take care of yourself, and know that there are many people sending you good thoughts and wishes right now.
I’m so sorry Karen. Their time with us is always too short. Tabs lived his best life because of you. I recently lost a kitty to cancer and she was only 7 years old. We thought we had another 10 years with her but sadly it was not to be. It sucks so hard. Someday your heart will heal enough to let another furbaby in and you will save another little life.
I’m sorry to hear that… it’s a very sad news !! I have tears in my eyes now… I always look forward to see him every Sunday, and definitely that wasn’t the news I wanted to hear!! I’m heartbroken 😭
Oh that sucks. I don’t even like cats and I like him because he loves you so much. I’m really sorry for you and your family.
Sweet, sweet boy. I have had so many cats over the years due to working with humane societies and being a foster mom. It is always so hard to let them go but know that Tabs had many good years with you. You were his mom and he knows you love him. My heart goes out to you. You gave him a good life.
Oh Karen, I am so very sad to read of this news 🙁 . Even though this is a beauty blog, sometimes I don’t read them the day they come out (sorry), but I ALWAYS read the Sunday with Tabs ones as soon as I can. As you know, I’m a fellow “crazy cat lady” and miss my Jett every day since he suddenly passed last September. I think it’s better that you know and can show Tabs lots of love in these final days.
Sending you, El Hub and Connor Claire so much love and strength from the other side of the world. It will be tough, but we’re all here for you.
xxxDebbie (Jemima and Jax)
Karen,
I remember your mentioning your surname once in a post and thinking how beautifully it fit you, as it rolled off my tongue in a French or European accent. I can only remember Mont(something) (maybe) and have tried to find it online today, but to no avail. If you wouldn’t mind sharing that, I’m sure there are many of us who would like to send you a note of cheer.
If you DO mind, we will understand. 😔
(I haven’t felt this badly since Barbaro was injured in the Kentucky Derby and had to finally be put down, even after I sent him several tins of King Leo mints, which he loved)
Again, prayers and hugs; and some for Alex Trebek, too . .
Leigh
Boulder, CO
Karen, I’m so sorry to hear about Tabs. One of the reasons I liked your blog was because Tabs looked identical to my tabby Lyle, who had the same markings and coat color. I rescued Lyle when he was a baby and we were really close. I lost him to stomach cancer 2 years ago. I tried chemotherapy but unfortunately lost Lyle after a few months of treatment. He was such an emotional and intelligent cat. It sounds sappy, but on the day Lyle passed I took the day off work and we cuddled on the couch together. I’ll never forget the way he looked at me, right into my eyes. He looked at me for a long time and held my gaze as if to say he knew he was sick and he would have to leave me. I’ll never forget it. He was such a remarkable cat like your Tabs. Enjoy your remaining time with your kitty.
😢 Karen, there are no words. I’m so sorry. 😢 Please give Tabs a ruffle and a hug from me and thank him for all the joy. I’ll be thinking of you all xx
I’m so very sorry, Karen. Although those simple words are inadequate to express the sadness and regret we all feel about your eventual parting with Tabs, they are deeply heartfelt and I hope that all the loving thoughts your readers have expressed bring you some comfort. One of life’s most painful experiences is the loss of a loved one, but we are able to endure it because one of life’s most beautiful experience is the love we are able to share with that dear soul. I know you’ll hold Tabs close to your heart and, when the time comes, ease him gently on his way. Blessings on you and your sweet Tabs.
Karen I’m so so sorry to hear this! Losing a pet is never easy. Try to take solace in the fact that you’ve given Tabs 12 wonderful years of love!
Karen… I know the way you feel right now so good and am really sad to read this. Our cat was diagnosed with pancreas cancer 18 months ago. Vet said he had 6-12 months maximum. Fact is he had 15 months left of which most of the time was good before we decided to let him go.
Please, enjoy all the time left with him. Give him all your love, all the food he’s craving, even if it is kinda “unhealthy”, this doesn’t matter anymore. Enjoy and cuddle up as much as possible.
My thoughts are with you, I had a blog post on this topic, too and was deeply touched by all the good wishes.
Be strong, he will need you now <3
Karen, I read your post and just had to comment. I don’t usually post comments but I really wanted to say I am thinking of you and your family.
I am so, so sorry to hear about Tabs. I have always enjoyed reading your posts featuring Tabs and your cat-related humour. My husband has always found your Tabs/cat posts really entertaining too. Tabs has always brought such a fun and unique dimension to your site. It’s so wonderful to see how he has grown over the years and become a companion to your little girl as well.
Pets are members of the family just like us and it is heartbreaking when they leave us. We lost our cat Sophie a few years ago and it was heartbreaking. The house felt so strange without her and there are times when I still expect to see her when I go over to visit my parents (she was my parents’ cat, so a family cat). We used to call her my mum’s ‘Shadow’ as she was just like that, my mum’s constant companion, always with her.
All I can say is that Tabs will live on in you and your family’s memories of him. He has enriched your life, been part of it, been part of your family and that will never leave you. We still talk about Sophie, look at photos, share memories and think of her. Just like any family member, we had such joy having her in our lives, mourned her loss, miss her and find comfort remembering her and sharing memories.
I am thinking of you and your family.
Sorry Karen,
my heart goes out to you!
I’m so sorry, Karen. How lucky he was to find such a loving family. May his memory be a comfort to you when he’s physically gone.
Please know that I feel your pain and I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. XO
Oh Karen, such heartbreaking news…
You know I’ve been through this with Odin and the only way I could look at it was that it had been a privilege to share my life with him and to accompany him right to the very end of his life.
It’s possible to have such a bond with a cat that it’s agony to have to let them go. I don’t think they ever actually leave us – I’ve never had any experience with clairvoyance or spiritualism or anything like that, but Odin communicated with me for the first three days after he left and I was astonished. When the time came to think about another cat, I asked him to send us the right one at the right time and he did.
My dear Karen, I may be many miles away in the UK but my heart goes out to you and you and darling Tabs will be in my prayers. XXXXX
I’m so sorry to hear about Tabs. I’m hoping you and the fam can spend as much QT with him and shower him with all the extra love. Sending love and strength to you all.
Oh, Karen…I’m heartbroken for you and your family. Pets are definitely family members and amazing friends too. So much love and light to you as you cherish every minute you have left with Tabs.
Long time reader, first time poster…I’m so sorry for your family’s devastating news. I recently lost the love of my life, a nearly 12 year old Frenchie whom I crowned Napoleon. May you feel every bit of Tabs’ love and may he feel yours. He will be with you every moment of the rest of your life and one day you’ll see each other again. Sending love and prayers.
So sorry about Tabs, who was a wonderful friend and companion. Grieve as you feel the need to, regardless of how long it takes. He brought you joy and in return, you gave him a wonderful life.
So very sorry to hear this Karen, I loved reading about Tabs on your blog and am saddened by this news.
I’m so sorry for your loss =( Tabs is family to all of us at this point and we’ll all remember him with love.
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Hi Karen, I am so sorry to hear this. Enjoy the time you have with Tabs. The only thing I can say is to take the time you need to grieve. Don’t rush through it. It may seem like an odd thing to say, but allow yourself to feel what you are feeling.
I’m so sorry you and Tabs are going through this Karen. We lost a cat to cancer a few years ago, and it’s so hard. But you and he both know how very much you love him and no matter how long you have left, at least you have that time to say goodbye. You will grieve, and you will never ever forget him but one day, when you’re ready, your heart will open for another cat to walk on in. In the meantime, take care of Tabs and even more, take care of yourself.
Sending love and peace to you and your family. I hope that Tabs defies the predictions and continues to feel well and to bask in the sun and in your love.
Hugs
Karen, I wish you and your beautiful family all the strength and courage you will need when Tabs leaves this earth. Please know Tabs will always be with you and many of us who have loved Tabs through your beautiful posts. It is gut wrenching losing a fur member of the family. I so enjoyed seeing the pictures today and hope you savour every moment. Sending you loving thoughts.
Nicole
Oh sweet Karen; I am so very sorry. It feels impossibly hard; like the most unbelievable gut punch mixed with helplessness. But you have given that sweet dude the Best. Life. EVER. I’ve been following you and Tabs for years and really love you both. My guy is going on 13 and has kidney disease. It just blows and I’m so, so very sorry for you. Sending you gentle hugs and warm thoughts. oxox
Dear Karen,
I’m just now reading this. My heart breaks for you. I have lost a piece of my heart whenever I have lost a pet. Even though I knew my babies always got the best of care, I beat myself up. That’s what humans do. Tabs know he is well loved. Try your best to not treat him differently. Just continue to love him and enjoy him. He will always be with you. ♥️
Dear Karen,
Having been through this a few times in my 54 years, my heart just hurts for you. We are never prepared to lose a beloved family member who has been a part of our life for so long. It is evident in all of your posts how much love you have for your sweet Tabs. He is so lucky to be a part of your family. I am sending gentle hugs and prayers of comfort to all of you.
Sorry for hearing these news. I know how you feel, I went through three times those feelings. As a veterinarian with 37 years experience, my husband sees many cases of neoplasms in recent years. You need to be strong and find the opportunity to teach life and farewell lessons to your little treasure, your daughter. Big hugs from Greece!
Dear Karen, I’m so sorry to hear this heart breaking news. I’m tearing as I read through this post. Stay strong. *Hugs*
Dear Karen, I was so sad when I read your post; losing our pets is so painful. Thank you and Tabs so much for all the fun posts and beautiful pictures – Tabs has given so much pleasure to your readers, and has had such a wonderful life with you and your family. Lots of love to you xx
I read your blog every week and I always look forward to the pictures of Tabs. My husband and I also have a cat (Natalie) and a toddler. The cat was the first family member before we decided to have children and we always call her our son’s big sister because she is such a big part of our family. I am so sorry to hear the news, it makes me so sad. I know that Tabs has had an amazing life and will be forever remembered by your family and the readers of this blog. Sending you hugs from Maryland.
I’m so sorry Karen. Tabs has been a cornerstone of many lives with his je ne sais quoi and joi de vivre. He will be loved and missed by all. Until then hopefully you can enjoy him while he is here with us still, and after? His legacy will live through your many posts and pictures as a treasure of a life well lived and loved.
Karen,
I’m so sorry to hear about Tabs. As much as I love your writing about makeup, he has always been my favorite part of MBB. I know you will miss him terribly. You have been an amazing and devoted cat mom/pet assistant. I hope you find some comfort in knowing that you gave him a long and happy life. Sending love your way.
I’m sorry to hear about Tabs! He’s been an absolute delight and joy to follow every weekend and has brought a lot of smiles to many people. Sending strength and love to your family.
Karen, I so deeply sorry. For not being consistent with coming onto MB&B as often it as consistently as I used to, otherwise I would have have read this sad update on Sunday and said something then. Instead, I only began to know something was wrong when I saw today’s IG post and then immediately came on with a sense of foreboding in my gut. Then to backtrack back to this announcement, and that’s when the tears came. For you. For Tabs. For Connor Claire and El Hub. And for every reader who also became attached to Tabs. I mean, who wouldn’t, right? Such a huge Purrsonality and cattatude (but in a really good way!), of course we love him! This is just such sad news. I lost one of my favorite kitties a few years ago to FIV. She, too, was fairly young at 12 ½. It was heart-wrenching. For the longest time I kept thinking she’d suddenly jump up and tap me with her paw for attention, or that I would hear her low growly meow, or that I’d wake up and she’d be right there by my side ready to start the day. But, of course, that never happened. I won’t lie, I know this will be a very hard stretch for you band yours. Savor every single happy, playful, cuddles moment now. Don’t beat yourself up over times when you may have lost some time with Tabs, life just plain happens. We all get distracted. We never see this coming. None of us do, I believe. Much love and hugs to you and Tabs. Well, chin scritches for Tabs, because some strange Cat-Lady coming up and hugging him would be kinda crazy!
I am so sorry for you and your family. Much love and strength to you and Tabs.
I am so very sorry to hear the news about your sweet Tabs. Wishing you and your family much peace and love. xo
I’m soo deeply sorry for the news. I have a cat myself and I know just how much we love them and how many times a day I tell my Galileo that I love him.
In your heart you know you gave him the best life possible – a safe home, a loving family, best health care and food, toys and nature to play in. This might console you a bit, but the grief is inescapably huge.
I’ve only just seen this post Karen, I’m so sorry to hear this. I have loved and lost a number of cats over the years and it’s heart breaking when they go. Try and focus on the fact that you have given Tabs a wonderful life for 12 years and how much he has enjoyed being with you and your family, remember all the lovely times you’ve shared. I can feel a lump in my throat thinking about my own cats from through my life and how much I still miss them years later. I am sure they never really leave though, I am sure they are just round a corner, just out of sight. Big hugs from the other side of the pond. XXX
Oh my goodness, I’ve taken a break from the net lately and have just recently seen this. I’m so sorry to read this! Big hugs to you and your family and of course Tabs!!