I’ll never forget the wise words of a Sephora associate just before my birthday last year. I was a little cranky about turning 35 until she said, “You should be happy because some people never make it that far.”
Yup, that put me in check RIGHT QUICK.
My year 35 had its ups and downs, but for the most part it was great. I learned a lot of valuable lessons, a few of which I tend to re-learn over and over again like…
1. Avoid uncomfortable shoes
NOTE TO SELF: If a pair of shoes hurt within the first minute of trying them on, chances are they’re not the right shoes for you (no matter how cute they are!).
Hurts so good!
2. Trust your instincts…
Because they’re rarely wrong. That inexplicable gut feeling deep down inside is there for a reason. It’s like an internal compass, sometimes guiding us away from danger, other times nudging us toward golden opportunities.
A few months ago I ignored my compass, and I’m still kicking myself today. Last fall I spotted American Vogue Creative Director Grace Coddington sitting by herself across from me in a room. I’d always wanted to meet her because I love her work (and I know she’s a cat lady). She seemed approachable and didn’t appear to be busy. My gut was telling me to walk over and say hello, maybe also show her some of the 4,677 pictures of Tabs on my phone, but I was intimidated and couldn’t bring my legs to move.
Yup, there’s an opportunity not likely to come along again.
3. Only you can control the way you respond
You can’t control what the person next to you says or does, or what the weather’s like. The only thing that you (or I) can really control is how we respond — to good news, bad news, hardships, challenges, kind words, mean words, bad days, great days and ungrateful tabby cats. Sometimes, we may not respond well immediately (like when we’re completely overwhelmed), and that’s okay, but ultimately we’re the only ones who can turn things around.
“You are responsible for your own happiness,” the saying goes. I think that’s easier said than done when things are really bad, but I do think it’s true. Your happiness is not the responsibility of your partner, or your parents, or your husky tabby cat.
Have you celebrated a birthday recently (if so, happy belated bday! ), and do you feel like you learned any lessons from your last year?
Your friendly neighborhood beauty addict,