Like sailing, life has its ups and downs. One minute you’re cruising along at a good clip, the wind at your back; next minute it’s like you’re beating back a storm, flailing with your arms and legs just to tread water!
Because the seas aren’t always smooth sailing, it pays to be resilient.
I’ve been thinking a lot about that word lately — resilient — because it’s something I’d like to be. Why are some folks able to bounce back so easily from challenges while others (I’m talking about myself here) have a much tougher time?
Being resilient means being able to roll with the punches. When something throws off their juju — stress, tragedy, adversity, trauma — resilient people thrive, making the adjustments necessary to keep chugging right along.
Let me be the first to admit that I am NOT a naturally resilient person. Left to my own devices, I tend to short circuit, or feel like a victim of one of life’s cruel jokes. I’ll overindulge in junk food, or in some expensive habit [COUGH!] makeup [COUGH!], and curl up in a ball to cry.
It happened last week! I had a meltdown about writer’s block, and it was not a pretty sight (consumed WAY too much Nutella).
I want to handle adversity better. I want to adapt and thrive, not fall apart. I want to advocate the consumption of Nutella on MY terms, in moderation, and not as a knee-jerk reaction to stress.
Are you with me?
If you are, first, the good news: Most experts believe that resiliency can be learned. I did some reading last weekend, and the following resources are beginning to help:
- How to Cope with Stress and Become More Resilient: 9 things you can do to help build up your resilience to stress, like cultivating your optimism and building a network of support.
- 10 Tips For Building Resiliency: Among the 10 tips are 1) practical ways to change your mindset and 2) setting realistic goals.
- 10 Ways to Remain Calm in a Stressful Situation: Tips like learning to accept a stressful situation (that it exists) and remembering to look at the big picture will help the next time I feel like I’m losing my shizz.
Are you resilient? Does it come natural to you (lucky!), or is it something you have to work on like I do? If you have any advice that may help others, please share in the comments.
Your friendly neighborhood beauty addict,